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Hey, Mom and Dad: When Should Kids Get Their First Cell Phone?

Parents, Patch wants to hear from you on the questions that get families talking.

Welcome to "Hey, Mom and Dad"—a weekly feature in which we ask our Facebook fans to share their views on parenting. Every week we get the conversation started by taking a look back at a question we asked parents the week before on Patch Facebook pages from around the area:

Your child is 10 years old and insists he needs a cell phone in his life to keep him safe and in constant contact with his friends. What do you do? Run out and put him on the family plan? Or, tell him to wait until he can get a job and pay for it himself? That leads us to this week's question:

What is the appropriate age for kids to have their first cell phone?

Take a look at what people had to say and join the conversation in the Comments section.

Lee Ann Anderson: My daughter got her's in kindergarden she is now in the 7th grade . She was put on the wrong bus and was home alone thank goodness my neighbor was home I so up set that's when I got her one . Plus when was the last time you saw a pay phone . — Batavia Patch Facebook

Karyn Smith Wilson: When they are doing things with their friends going to the movies etc. (middle school or 5th grade) I want to be able to know where they are etc for safety reasons. (I'm not talking smart/iPhone here) — Elmhurst Patch Facebook

Kristen Norris Zimny: For us it was middle school. At middle school there are after school activities that the kids have to be picked up from and they needed a phone to get in contact with us. Before that there was no need. The kids school was close and within walking distance. — Geneva Patch Facebook

Julie Farrell: I told my girls that we'll DISCUSS it when they're 16, and even then it'll only happen if they're paying for at least half of it and only 'cuz payphones are few and far between these days. — Glen Ellyn Patch Facebook

Debbie Buelow: When they can pay the bill. — Lisle Patch Facebook

Michelle Sussman: When the kids are left without their parent - sports, practices, etc. — Naperville Patch Facebook

Devon Vida: Honestly, it depends on the circumstances. We have a blended family so our three kids are always splitting time between mom and dads...they are 9,10, and 11 and all have phones. — St. Charles Patch Facebook

Sue Stozek Mayeda: Depends on the individual child, I got my daughter hers when she turned 11. Better safe than sorry! — Wheaton Patch Facebook

So what's your take? Do kids need a cell phone before they're old enough to pay for it themselves? Tell us in the comments below.

Jeni Golomb October 2, 2012 at 12:35 pm
I'm curious WHY parents don't want to get their kids phones earlier. Is it just the expense? I have a 6y.o. and I am considering getting him one for Christmas. Nothing fancy, just something I can text him on/ he could call me on. (who else would he call anyways? None of his friends have phones!) Some times I just think of things that I would like to be able to text him (like if the plan changes afterschool). My husband disagrees, so we are in discussions. :)
Jeni Golomb October 2, 2012 at 12:37 pm
OH! The other reason I would like to get him a phone is that we do not have a home phone, just cells for my husband and I. So if, God forbid, there was an emergency, I would like my son to be able to call 911 without having to try to find one of our phones.
Rudy October 2, 2012 at 12:59 pm
A home phone cost like 10 a month you can't swing that?
Stacy October 2, 2012 at 01:22 pm
My 11 year old has a phone. He gets it when he goes to a friend's house on his own or to practice. He can text me or call me when plans change otherwise it stays charging with my phone. Sometimes he'll take it along somewhere to play a game, but otherwise, he doesn't have it in his grasp until I ask him to bring it along. I've found sometimes that once kid's have something, the infatuation wears off and it no longer becomes the be all end all thing to have/do.
Jeni Golomb October 2, 2012 at 01:31 pm
I didn't say I couldn't AFFORD a home phone, I said we didn't have one. I don't like the idea of them. They are completely unnecessary (and with taxes and other fees, they are actually more like $30/mo). If I am going to spend that, why not get my son a cell phone that is 100x more useful than a phone that is stuck in my house?
Kelli Trejo October 2, 2012 at 01:32 pm
My son got his at 15 (when he started really spending time out after school without any parents around and we realized all the payphones were gone) and my girls will not be any sooner. Cell phones are just another stressor - more pressure put on them to always be accessible, sometimes making them too accessible, not to mention a safety issue - it's crazy the trackable information transmitted by something as simple as a photo taken from a cell phone. Years ago we cut the home line and used only cell phones but when our oldest daughter started staying home alone, we reinstalled the home phone. Also - the land of excess we live in is creating little monsters full of entitlement. It's ok for kids to be kids, to go outside and play instead of sit on the couch and text their friends across the street. Plenty of time to be adults when they are actually adults.
Mary Jean Moen October 2, 2012 at 01:40 pm
AS A GRANDMOTHER I BELIEVE A CHILD SHOULD HAVE A CELL PHONE BY AT LEAST 10 YRS OF AGE.
Reasons..Safety Issues, Security, Changes in plans,Emergency issues to alert parents or grandparents. They can be programed for just certain numbers coming In or out & what times are available for their use..One of my grandaughters got left at school NO PHONE!!!!
Kelli Trejo October 2, 2012 at 01:57 pm
I know stuff like that has always happened. A family from our school as kids was notorious for being late picking up their kids - sometimes by hours! There was always another parent who'd keep watch or the school would call their parents to "remind" them to be there. Accidents happen (literally and figuratively). I'd be crushed if I were unable to get to one of my kids and no one was there to help them. I'm sad to hear that happened to your granddaughter and no adult stepped up to the plate for her. That's awful and must have been scary. What has happened to our communities?
bobrzik October 2, 2012 at 02:23 pm
I don't even have a cell phone. What did they do in the old days?
H.I. McDunnough October 2, 2012 at 03:20 pm
Cell phones are the devils right hand.
John Iwaszkiewicz October 2, 2012 at 03:29 pm
Whats in his left hand?
H.I. McDunnough October 2, 2012 at 04:41 pm
A TV remote
JULIE October 2, 2012 at 06:35 pm
my kids are 8,10,14 and they all have cell phones. they all got them last year for safety reasons. all of my children walk to and from school. i want my children to be able to dial 911 just incase something were to ever happen while i am not around that in itself could be a life or death situation for not only my children but for someone elses child.
beckysensei October 2, 2012 at 06:47 pm
I was in HS in the 80's. I was active and took part in sports and band. I had no problem getting where I needed to go and being where I needed to be without a phone. My son is 3, and I'm sure things will be drastically different in 10 years, but I'm hoping to hold out as long as I can. Just seems so dangerous and, frankly, quite stupid to put so much responsibility in a kid's hand.
John Iwaszkiewicz October 2, 2012 at 07:05 pm
ooo.....thats good.
Susan Klimala October 3, 2012 at 12:56 am
I think there is more to having the phone than just using it for emergencies and communication with parents. We made the decision to get our kids phones in middle school, and it is great for contacting each other. What's not so great is the constant texting between kids that also accompanies the privilege of having a phone.
Kelli Trejo October 3, 2012 at 02:52 pm
We were asked for our personal opinions but at the end of the day, your response is the only truly correct anwser. :)
Kelli Trejo October 3, 2012 at 06:51 pm
A good point. Having had the iPhone since its inception, my children have always been able to pick it up and do more than I can - no tutorials, nobody first showing them. Google is to my 8-year-old what the Encyclopedia Brittanica was to me. Technology is no different than a foreign language - total immersion at the youngest age possible is the best way to learn. That said, my kids have plenty of experience with technology. Thus, in my humble opinion, keeping with the times is little cause to give my 11-year-old much less my 8-year-old their own cell phone no matter how much they beg. I just know how dependent I've become on mine and my kids don't need that type of dependency until they are much older. And if the point is only to be able to keep in contact with me while I'm away or they are, they aren't old enough to go anywhere unless we or their friends' parents take them so it's just not an issue yet. Of course, my family life is different than other parents' lives and as you said, it really boils down to what is best for each individual family. How can I say what is appropriate for another person's family? I just try to do what's best for mine and pray I don't screw them up along the way.
eric johnson October 4, 2012 at 11:00 am
Our Naperville pediatrician advocates for children not to have a cell phone and if absolutely necessary then ONLY for texting. More and more physicians are speaking out about the impact of radiation exposure to a child, from cell phones. A child's skull is smaller and thinner than an adult, which allows for radiation to reach farther into the childs brain.
http://www.cutcat.com/item_images/Cell%20Phones%20Carlo.pdf

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